Alain answers:

This is a nonrelativistic problem. The wavelength variation is a factor of 0.02/6000 = 3.333E-6, implying a velocity variation of 3.333E-6c or 1000 m/s. Assuming this is the RMS velocity, for a molar mass M of 0.023 kg it corresponds to a temperature T = M*(vRMS)^2/(3R) = 922.087 K.
I’m not saying the RMS velocity has to be the one implied by “in the range” but it’s the highest of the three velocities (RMS, mean, most-probable) that are easily calculated from the velocity distribution curve, which extends to quasi-infinite velocity. See the ref.

Alain answers:

Frequency = Wave Speed/Wavelength

Wave Speed is the speed of light = 3.0 x 10^8 m/s (approximately)

Wavelength is given as 600 nanometers. The speed of light is m/s so the nanometers should be converted by multiplying by 10^-9 as shown:

(3.0 x 10^8)/(600 x 10^-9)

= (3 x 10^8 x 10^9)/600

= (3 x 10^17)/600

= 5 x 10^14 Hertz

Alain answers:

Frequency (cycles per second) = c / ?

? Is in meters.

Alain answers:

Use velocity = frequency x wavelength, and assuming red light travels at 300,000,000 metres per second, (and knowing that 1 Angstrom =0.1 nm or 1 x 10^-10 m) the calculation is:

frequency = velocity / wavelength = 3 x 10^8 / 6000 x 10″-10 = 500,000,000,000,000 Hz

So the answer is (e) 500,000,000 MHz

Alain answers:

Well,listen carefully please,all of u my dear answerers.
Concerning depression ,there is not any drug known to be able to treat depression untill now.all these drugs u are talking about and all those drugs doctors and pharmaceutical companies are trying to convince people that it treats depression,I tell you that all these drugs are not treating depression at all.it just can help masking the manifestations of the disease.it only hides the symptoms but in fact the depressive condition stay in ur unconcious untill u stop taking the drug. So then it is just a symptomatic treatment…..like when some one has a serious disease ,and one of the symptoms of this disease is headache,and he went to take an analgesic. Of course the analgesic would releive the headache but still the original disease is there in his body and would continue give him headache when the effect of the analgesic drug reaches its end.
***THE PROBLEM WITH THESE DRUGS (ANTIDEPRESSANTS) IS THAT IT HAS AVERY SERIOUS SIDE EFFECTS.INFACT ,THESE SIDE EFFECTS SHOULD THEMSELVES BE CONSIDERED AS A SERIOUS DISEASE.WHEN U CONTINUE TAKING THESE DRUGS FOR ALONG TIME YOU WOULD FIND THAT THESE DRUGS ARE REALLY AFFECTING UR BRAIN AND UR NERVOUS SYSTEM,BESIDES UR BODY GETS USED TO IT ,AND IT COULD LEAD YOU TO ADDICTION IF THE DOSE IS NOT WELL CONTROLLED BY THE DOC ,OR THE USER OF THE DRUG.
*THESE CNS DRUGS REALLY AFFECTS THE BRAIN AND ITS HARMFULL EFFECTS ARE MUCH WORSE THAN ITS USEFULL EFFECTS.THESE SIDE EFFECTS ARE MUCH WORSE THAN DEPRESSION ITSELF.ALTHOUGH WHAT THEY CONSIDER A USEFULL EFFECT FOR THEM IS NOT USEFULL AT ALL,COZ IT STILL DON’T TREAT DEPRESSION IT JUST MASKS IT BY GIVING A FALSE SENSATION OF RELAXATION AND JOY.BUT THROUGH OUGHT THE COURSE OF TREATMENT U WOULD FIND THAT FROM TIME TO TIME U STILL FEEL DEPRESSION FOR A WHILE THROUGH THE DAY OR FROM A DAY TO ANOTHER,ALTHOUGH U STILL TAKING THE MEDICATIONS(THE DRUGS).
*If you want my advice ,I will advise you to read the previous answer ,given by “sandra20″.it is really a good answer and of real help .Depression is not a physical disease,it is not ever related to the brain like what those money eating doctors and companies try to convince people with.they would prefere to gurantee ur visit to their clicics for the end of ur life coz this would guarantee their pockets and bank accounts to be always filled with ur money.yes,there is some chemical changes in the brain ,but these chemical changes in the brain happens normally to everyone while changing from a certain mood to another during daily life.in depression these chemical changes happens yes,but still it happens after the depression started not before it,this means depression is the cause of these changes not these chemical changes r the cause of depression.so then when we go to treat depression we shouldn’t treat it by giving drugs that affect these chemical transmitters(chemical changes) cause it is not the cause ,it is just a result of depression.we should start to deal with the cause not with the result.they should search to treat it from the point it started not from the point it ended.so that we have to start with the depressed man himself,his will,his thoughts,his beleifs that ended with him in that condition.
*so that guys I tell u all,treating depression is in ur hands not in any doctor’s hands,doctors really don’t know you better than u know urselves.they just study some theories and some chemistry which really is still not certain,just theories and they keep trying and testing them on everyone without being sure of any results.
*start by urself,help urself and don’t just wait for help of drugs.it is all about ur will and ur beleifs.start by asking urself questioins about when this has strated with u and how, to be able to find the point from where u can start finding ur way ,finding urself,ur will and finding the point where u can start trusting urself. Ask urself these questions without ever blaming urself,u don’t have to blame urself coz every one makes mistakes not only u,but everyone.don’t look at people and say they are better than u coz they don’t do the mistakes u could have done ,don’t do that coz the truth is that every body has his own mistakes and every body feels the sense of guilt some times ,the only difference between one and another is the way they deal with this sense of guilt,the way they deal with their mistakes.the only difference between someone who is depressed and other one who is not depressed is not that the non depressed not doing mistakes but is that the depressed blames himself deeply and punishes himself for his mistakes.please start by forgiving urself ,trust Allah’s/God’s forgiveness,he forgives everything. Sothen trust his forgiveness and start by asking him to guide u to what pleases him only so that u would be pleased.start by discussing everything with urself,between you and yourself without blaming urself in a hard way and without punishing urself mercilessly , it is not for u to punish urself ,it is only for Allah/God either to do this or not ,and Allah/God is all forgiver,he forgive everything so please beleive in his forgiveness and give urself the chance to taste the beautifull taste of his forgiveness and to live a beautifull mercifull life beneath his forgiveness and his mercy .beleive me when u beleive in Allah’s forgiveness and ask him forgiveness,u will find it easy inside you to forgive urself.just show some mercy to urself and don’t blame it or punish it that hard.
* remember that depression mainly means three main words…..sense of guilt ,sadness(greive,sorrow) and hoplesseness(or despair). These are the base of depression the main three components or elements.these three elements could be releived also by three main words…..forgiveness,satisfaction,and hope(free honest will,self confidense,reasonable and rational steps ).
*when you forgive urself u will never find any sense of guilt,and since u get rid of the guilt u will never find anysadness in ur heart (in Islam there is avery important wisdom (base) (hadith literature of “prophet Mohammed “peace be upon him)which indicates that the sin( the sense of guilt) turns all the body sad.all the body (all organs ,all systems ,and offcourse including the nervous system)gets sad for the sin,so then sadness always follow the sense of guilt after commiting sins.so that beleive me when Allah forgive you ,you will then be able to forgive urself and u will then get rid of the sense of guilt,and scince ur sin has been forgiven and the sense of guilt has fade away sothen sadness will leave ur body,according to the islamic teachings.when u get rid of sadness and find forgiveness and mercy you will then find satisfaction, and hope will easily follow and u will get rid of depression ,then u will find that u have restored (got back) ur life,ur normal social and satisfying life.
* components of hope are free honest will,resonable and rational steps in life as much as u can do,self confidence and righteous guidance(God’s guidance). No one can go on through life alone without Allah/God.
*try the islamic way of releiving depression ,beleieve me u will be recovered sooner than u could immagine.try everything that could help you away from those harmfull drugs.these drugs are really a very big dirty lie.
*try also these kinds of therapies ,it could be helpfull :
Time line therapy,Neuro Conditioning Dynamics,Power Human Energy,NLP (Neuro Language Programming). Make search for “DR.IBRAHIM ELFIKY”, he is really brilliant in these sciences.I have attended some lectures to him.he is accredited trainer from the American Memory institute in New York.I think he lives in Canada but he gives lictures all over the world.
*for me I recommend the Islamic way (method).I recommend it specially coz I have practised it myself with 2 of my best friends and it has given amazing results they themselves never had immagined that they could have gotten rid of depression that easy and that soon oneday without any drugs.one of my friends had ” bipolar disorder” = “bipolar depression” . The doctor prescribed a long list of medications to him.he started to take his medications hoping to get rid of Depression ,but it had taken along time without any satisfying result.although drugs improved his depressed mood to some extent but still he used to feel depression from time to time although still taking his drugs ,besides the side effects of the drugs were felt as an illness itself.during this time ,drugs helped him to start attending his lectures but still it was too hard to him specially with his disturbed memory from the depression and from the side effects of the drugs itself.he kept on this way another 2 years,despite taking his medications but still feeling depression from time to time ,beside the side effects of those drugs. I was really concerned with his condition untill Allah/God has guided me while reading the holy qura’n to understand some ayat(verses,parts) that really has given me avery good Idea about Depression ,its components and how to deal with it.it depends mainly on understanding one’s motives&redirecting it in the right direction to acheiving his goals to fell peace inside.it is all about faith, relegious practises ,prayers 5 times perday,regular physical excersise,increasing his knowlage.in the holy qura’n many parts talking about how to deal with greive,sadness,satisfaction,forgiveness,sense of guilt ,andrecovery from diseases by the holly quraan and by certaine natural drinks&herbs.some centers in the islamic countries help recovery psychiatric problems by the holly quraan & the natural herbs..
Just contact this center in “Yemen” they’ve treated depression without drugs,just natural herbs,honey&the holly qura’n.contact them via the internet or the phone.
**

Alain answers:

Depression and anxiety kind of depend on each other, and most that get anxiety disorders usually start out becoming depressed. There’s a a fear of having lost control and that you’re going crazy and will never be the same or something bad will happen and this produces the anxiety and even physical symptoms as your anxiety level peaks. Then when your have a panic attack, there’s a part of a your brain named the amalgdala that works as kind of a “anxiety meter.” that gets “reset,” and you and your brain thinks that your new level of anxiety is appropriate.

Basically the only way to “reset,” this meter is to change your way of thinking. There are numerous ways to do this, but what I’ve found for me is, that if I become involved in something that overshadows my interest in my anxiety, then it helps to get my mind of it and in turn changes the way I think. The brain does things on it’s own, but it’s also influences by what we do to, so we are still very much in control of our brains and how it affects our mind.

There’s plenty of things to do other than that though, limiting caffeine and stimulants, healthy diet, exercise, would be of benefit. Avoiding stressful people or situations. You can’t let the anxiety influence your actions to much, even though this can be quite a challenge at times. Try to substitute thoughts that you are going crazy or something bad will happen with thoughts of logic. How likely are those things to happen, really?

Things that make it worse are focusing on it too much, letting it influence your actions too much, or being in a stressful environment, stimulants, thinking it’s taking over. Medication can go either way and affects everyone differently.

Alain answers:

Look at it this way if you had a suspect at gunpoint and you tripped out would you pull the trigger?
Look at anoter line of work. But if you are serious then go into forensic science then you could be happy and not have to carry a gun.

Alain answers:

Venlafaxine (Effexor) is an anti-depressant. Normally it takes anywhere from 2 to 6 weeks for it to kick in. If you have anxiety everyday for months and months, drugs like these may work.

You can also take drugs in the benzodiazepine class. Drugs such as Diazepam (Valium) or Lorazepam (Ativan) or short acting drugs. They have a short half-life in relation to SNRI Anti-Depressants like Effexor. You only need to take them when you feel your anxiety coming on. And they last for about a day, with relatively less side effects than anti-depressants in general. They can be habit forming, but only if you take it every day at doses larger than recommended.

You can ask your doctor to try one of those anxiolytic drugs. Take them once, and if you don’t like the feeling, don’t try it.

As far as I know, I don’t really know “Natural” drugs that change your anxiety levels. What you can do is take therapy like CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) which changes your thinking patterns, or just see a psychologist or psychiatrist and talk to them about your anxiety.

With my anxiety, I take ativan whenever I feel like my anxiety is coming on. I have them in 1 mg form. I have them in both sub lingual form (Put under the tongue, absorbed into the body) and in pill form. I think the sub linguals are faster acting, although I’m not entirely sure.

Anxiety can be managed by drugs, therapy, or other coping mechanisms. If music relaxes you, listen to music. There are a variety of mechanisms. If you want or need to talk, my e-mail is on my profile. I have a long history dealing with anxiety and I will not hesitate to share anything I’ve learned with you.

Alain answers:

KNOW WHAT TRIGGERS YOUR PANIC DISORDER IS RITICAL:

http://www.anxiety-panic-treatment.com/panic-disorder/

1. Recurrent Panic Attacks
A panic attack is a sudden and intense feeling of terror, fear or apprehension, without the presence of actual danger. The symptoms of a panic attack usually happen suddenly, peak within 10 minutes and then subside. However, some attacks may last longer or may occur in succession, making it difficult to determine when one attack ends and another begins.
Many people may experience a panic attack once, or even a few times during their lives. However, in order for a panic disorder diagnosis to be made, one must experience recurring panic attacks that are not caused by the effects of drugs, alcohol or another medical or psychological condition.

2. Persistent Worry About the Implications of Panic Attacks
Because panic attacks result in such intense physical sensations, it is not uncommon for some people to become convinced they are related to an undiagnosed and possibly life-threatening medical condition. This may mean trips to the nearest emergency room or doctor’s office and intensive testing to rule out physical disease. But, even when assured that these symptoms are not life-threatening, it may do little to put the sufferer’s mind at ease. The feelings experienced during panic attacks are so overwhelming and uncontrollable, sufferers can become convinced they are going to die, are going crazy or that some medical condition has gone undiagnosed.

3. Behavioral Changes
So frightening are the symptoms of panic disorder that you may develop behavioral changes in an effort to avoid having another panic attack. For example, this may include avoiding physical exertion because the associated breathlessness and increased heart rate mimic panic symptoms.
Agoraphobia is a common complication of panic disorder that includes an intense fear (panic response) of being in certain situations in which escape is difficult or potentially embarrassing, or where help is not readily available. Such situations may include leaving home alone, being home alone, traveling by car, train or bus, being in an elevator, being in a crowd, being in a large store or mall, being on a bridge or standing in a line.

4. Persistent Concern About Having Another Panic Attack
Because panic attacks associated with panic disorder occur suddenly and without a known cause, may people find themselves worrying about when and where the next attack will occur. The anticipation of the next attack may cause you to feel anxious and interfere with your ability to fully function in your everyday life.

Alain answers:

As far as i know, agoraphobia is not a panick attack.
Agora was a market in ancient greece where the philosophers used to meet and talk.
Agoraphobia is a fear of open, large spaces.

Alain answers:

This question has been asked many times. Take a look at some great answers below:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090806094124AA7Nlyr

Alain answers:

That is what I was going to say.

Alain answers:

Honey, that sounds like anxiety attacks, panic attacks, and it even partially sounds like bi-polar mania. I have the same feelings”symptoms”. But, I AM NOT A PHYSICIAN. But, you need to see one because of the chemical imbalance in your brain.
Don’t waste time on here for something this important – go to a doctor!
Hope this helps.

Alain answers:

Well i’ve had all of the above my whole life and i ended up spending time in a mental hospital because of it. I put a shotgun to my head but inside i couldnt go through with it. It is extremely difficult to handle all of that. Especially the depersonalization, i would lay in my bed awake and out of no where i would become paralyzed. I couldnt yell or move as a dark creature would come towards me. My body felt tingly and ichy where it grabbed my leg. This would only last a few minutes until i would snap out of it. I became extremely suicidal because i couldnt handle the extreme case of psychosis, anxiety, and depression. The best thing to do is see a doctor who knows what they are talking about. A simple prescription of an anti depressant and/ or anxiety medication can really turn your life around. My name is jason, this is my girlfriends account btw..

Alain answers:

Write down your symptoms so you don’t forget when you get there, most people forget.

Just say doctor, I think I might be having panic attacks and then show him the list.

It’s easier for the doctor to see it on paper than to try and remember all you’ve said.

Alain answers:

You’re probably being unfaithful. If your a christian. Maybe it’s OCD or you’re just a perfectionist. Or maybe you just truly love the things you have and don’t want to lose them, but once in a while, you have to love your things and share or let them go if they want too.

Alain answers:

I am exactly the same way. Anxiety disorders can seriously affect your life- it’s got so bad with me that i’m afraid to go out of the house unless i’m with my parents. Yes the bus thing is nasty, i also get scared when it comes because i don’t always feel comfortable around the people on there. You need to try and take your mind off it, if you get scared than try and reassure yourself. All the best

Alain answers:

I HAVE NO TIME

Alain answers:

This may sound weird, but in a way shes lucky. People that suffer from anxiety and panic attacks are usually much older and are cursed with it for many years if not the rest of their lives. While shes young you have time to get through it and teacher her how to fight anxiety. I personally have delt with anxiety and coached people suffering from many anxiety related issues for 3years now. You need to right away get her into cognitive therapy!

Feel free to email me for further info.
No matter what any doctor says to you, never ever get her started on pills. Ive used every single medication for anxiety, they are all habit forming, they all have serious withdrawls, and they all don’t cure it. They mask it and she will still feel some anxiety. Cognitive therapy will work in reteaching her mind to ignore the anxiety and find a way around it tell its gone.

One of the hardest parts of helping someone with anxiety is having to deny them. The things that scare her are the things she will avoid, this will go from just avoiding, to prevent any kind of interaction with the subject, to ultimately shutting. You need to end it as soon as possible by keeping her exposed while still doing cognitive therapy.

These things can be genetic but its all fixable regardless. If she isn’t able to calm down via talking, than its because her anxiety has gone a step up. As much as it hurts you to see her this way, you have to continue to force her to live a normal life. She needs to understand and learn things are ok, all over again.

Alain answers:

Well I believe the Anxiety part…..I think you’re ok and just over paranoid.

Alain answers:

Causing yourself pain will only escalate over time.

Lets look at and address the causes and conditions of your anxiety… And then learn to manage and lower your stress…

How to do that?

Learn to first close your eyes and take 3 deep slow breaths. Start emptying your mind.

Do this for 5 minutes to start. Work up to 2 times a day 20 minutes each time. For more info see below (website)

Alain answers:

What is it that you’re afraid of? Whatever it is attack it, until you do fear will have control of you. But when you have the courage to face the fear, you’ll find the fear quickly disappears. Courage always wins over fear.

There is no basis for 92% of the things we worry about. That’s from Earl Nigthingale’s Lead the Field. I don’t remember the break-down of the 92% but the biggest one was worrying about things that never happened. As Mark Twain said “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”

As far as getting of the medication, that’s a good idea because you don’t need it. You can beat this on your own. Use the power of your sub-conscious mind…it’s absolutely amazing. I suggest a book I recently read by Dr. Joseph Murhpy titled “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind”

the thing about it though is that you really have to believe that you can overcome your anxiety without medication. Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.” He understood the amazing power of the mind. How else can you explain a man with a 5th grade education building the largest automobile company of all time? He truly believed he could and didn’t listen to all the morons who told him he couldn’t. He thought he could and he did. And so can you.
Good luck. Http://www.stoppanicattack.com

Alain answers:

Yes you’ve had one 100% and its mega scary!
Symptoms.
1.Racing heart
2.Sweaty
3.weak and shaky
4.giddy
5.shortness of breath
6.Feeling scared
So you have had one it seems,but if it happens again try to stay calm and breath slowly! Another tip is to hold a paper bag over you nose and mouth, and breath in and out slowly and calmly this will make the heart beat slow down to a normal pace.

Alain answers:

Yawning is your body’s way of telling you to get my oxygen in your brain. So either your are 1: already hyperventilating a bit as the panic attack starts and your brain tells you to yawn. Then the panic attack goes full blown. Or 2: already in a full blown panic attack and rapid breathing. Your body is telling you to yawn to help slow down your breathing. The shallow quick breaths increases co2 and decreases o2 causing your blood to be more acidic. So i would say that when you start to feel panicky watch your breathing and take deep long breaths in w/ longer breaths out. Good luck!

Alain answers:

The name of the team is Arsenal. It’s coach is Arsene Wegner and it’s most famous players include David Seaman and Tony Adams in the past and Thierry Henry and Fredrick Ljunberg in the present.

Alain answers:

He is a professor who has written a number of books. He sits back laughing at all the posts by the christians on here that prove just how correct he is!!!

Angsty teenagers seems to be learning to act like christians!!

The more you rail against a book or it’s author the more you prove how right he is!!

And please realize it is a book that is contemporary, who’s author can be proved and all that is said verified by the research papers!!

Correspond that with the fact that Roman Emperor Constantine produced the bible and he was a pagan not god!!! He also organized Christianity into the Holly Roman Catholic Church!! Not in Israel or any of the countries of supposed origin but entirely Italian!!

Not one word of it is contemporary with the period and was not written until many years after the period the story is set in!!

What a wonderful disinformation and deception campaign he waged against his Christian enemies – so good in fact that Christians are still following the deception to this day!!!

Alain answers:

Pfft, you’re never too old. There are people around who have been goth since it started, and they’re middle-aged now.

I’m 21 too- I still listen to metal. I still dye my hair. I still wear a leather coat and biker boots. I like all that stuff. As long as you’re not going out of your way to be mean to people who don’t have the same interests as you it shouldn’t matter how old you are. It’s the way you look after yourself and treat other people that shows how mature you are, not your taste in music.

Don’t worry about what other people think of you- anyone who cares that much isn’t worth spending time with or listening to.

Anyway, if Alice Cooper and Lemmy are still cool in their 60s there’s no reason to stop being rock and roll at 21 is there?

Alain answers:

Jane Eyre or The Professor both by Charlotte Bronte
Travels with My Aunt by Graham Greene
Agnes Gray by Anne Bronte
Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austin
The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie by Muriel Sparks

Alain answers:

I would have to disagree with the above answerers. As somebody with a great interest in psychology myself, This was all learnt through my life experiences and personal study of books as a young child, other peoples experiences and behaviours along with my own; looking at how things have affected certain people and the significant patterns there, along with online research over more recent years. This is far more important than somebody just ‘wanting’ to do psychology because they think they’re clever and can do anything. As one of the other answerers seemed to suggest otherwise, I think it would be right for me to say that if you’re applying for a university place, they’re not expecting you to have high-level qualifications in your chosen subject, or you wouldn’t need to attend university, but to have a good base knowledge, ideally through your own research and previous experiences, as you appear to have. This would then set you up perfectly to learn the more academic aspects of psychology. That said, I think that your statement portrays you as an excellent candidate, who has used their own personal time over the years to build up a passion for that particular subject, rather than somebody who has 9 A’s and no real-life experiences to help them in their studies. If I could suggest any things to help though, they would be to focus less on previous employment (put these together, ideally in a section which also explains your academic achievements and skills, etc) but more on the behaviours you have observed and your own personal research. Focus more on how you enjoyed researching these peoples behaviours and always felt at ease communicating with all types of people, rather than using your employment alone as one of the main reasons you would be an ideal candidate. Put more emphasis on your earliest interest and the types of things you researched in your own time. More emphasis on your deep interest and passion too. Also, structure is important, so break it down into sections and put all of your sentences/points into relevant sections which go together best. These don’t have to be written in a common structural layout, but however it fits and looks best. I.e, Personal statement (Main short pointers as to why you want to study this subject) Employment/skills, etc (As it says, but you could use part of this to detail how your employment experiences have given you a good base knowledge and separate this slightly from your skills and academic achievement) And another section where you go deeper into your personal experiences, research, etc and goals for the future (Keep goals brief too). It’s also clear from your statement that you’re intelligent and can write fluently, which would also be an important factor in getting on any course.

So keep your original statement, just slightly reduce the previous employment section and increase details of your passion and the personal time spent on research/your interest, etc. I would also have to agree with the answerer who mentioned that some of it is long winded, especially about your boss losing the lease, etc. Stick to main points as much as you can.

Excellent for a first attempt though and not much to change. It’s your choice if you take the advice of course, but it’s always worth looking at. Good luck!

PS….To the person who said that the appearance of trying to impress someone would turn them off…By using uttermost honesty, as this statement would portray, isn’t using emphasis in order to impress the reader part of the point? Slightly similar to a CV? You wouldn’t just reel off all your worst points now, would you?

Alain answers:

Your life isn’t over. You’ve probably got a good 50 or more years to live. So, with that said, here are a couple of suggestions.

What you’re experiencing is a bit of depression and a sense of your own mortality. You’re going to get older, but you can also get smarter. Go to school. Get a trade. Find a way to accomplish the goals you set for yourself. If you think they are unattainable, then they are. However, if you push yourself, you’ll see that you can do it. How do I know? Because I went back to school when I was 36. I’m in my forties now and am working on getting a Ph.D. In clinical psychology. Why? Because I want to do it. I’m only going to get older, but I don’t have to whine about it. It’s taking me a while because school costs so much. However, if you’re on disability, you may be able to get some type of assistance for an education.

Reassess your goals. Set new ones. If you want to be something by the time you’re 35, work for it.
Understand that your life is not over and that you have many years ahead of you. Do it for yourself. And remember that there are people your age who have never been married as well. You’re not the only one.

Alain answers:

It collapses because of too much dependency on others for salvation/survival/pleasure.
People who can’t think for themselves, buy from others who think for themselves.

Alain answers:

I’ve been to all those places you have gone. Professionals(i.e. Prostitutes) don’t work. You are looking for something real. No matter what your preconceived notions are you will KNOW with no doubts you have done the wrong thing after the deed is done. Trying to slake you thirst with a mirage doesn’t work. This will sound odd, but it worked for me. Try focusing on the world around you without thinking about yourself. The world is a big place, explore it. You can’t imaging the wonderful awe inspiring things you will find if you just look around. It is difficult at first. You have to just let that drive go. It won’t go away for good, so don’t worry about that. You figured out that you can’t kill it, so just let it sleep. There are many ways to get to that place. Meditation worked well for me. You might have to look to other things. As someone who has been where you are, you can do this. It takes effort, but when you get there its glorious. Best of luck on your journey.

Alain answers:

Yes you can. I scheduled an appointment with a psychiatrist and told him my symptoms. He stated he felt I had GAD and started me on medication. I had to go back every few weeks for a few months to make sure I was doing alright, but basically the doctor only asked about my anxiety- what causes it, how I feel when I have an attack and how the medication was working. I don’t think any of my appointments lasted longer than 15, maybe 20 minutes. And don’t be afraid to doctor shop. I saw two different doctors before I found one that actually listened and was very down to earth. I love him and am very happy I didn’t settle for a doctor who I did not feel comfortable with.

Alain answers:

I take Vistaril for my anxiety. It has worked really well for over a year. Very few side effects and its not habit forming. (like habit forming drugs ativan, klonopin, xanax…etc) i wish you all the best! Good luck!

Alain answers:

There are a number of good anti anxiety medications to try.
Your doctor will be able to choose what is best for you after he/she knows your symptoms or how you experience the anxiety. Work with your doctor as a team. I hope you will be feeling better soon.

Alain answers:

I totally understand your situation and believe me, its not rare.. I deal with anxiety myself. Im not a social type of person cause im always lost for words when someone is talking to me.. Its a long story but anyway, to answer your question, the problem we have in common is because we lack confidence.. I am really talkative around people im comfortable with like my brothers/sisters and my girlfriend but im a very boring guy when around other people even with friends.. That just proves that we lack confidence. Think of it as this, if you are going to talk with a 10 years old would you think that you are boring? No, because he is just 10 which makes you think that you have total dominance over the situation.. Same thing goes with everybody else, if you stop caring what people might think of you then things will only get better. Try analyzing this, the thing that makes people talk is basically the brain. Two people talking means 2 brain interacting. Our physical features are all a matter of solid substance to give us form. But its really the brain that lets us talk. Whenever you are reaching out to someone, think of them as a brain. You are no different with them. We are all the same.. We started from being just a tiny brain and growing up, we learn and absorb different information from one another which is what makes us different from one another, but at the end of the day, we are all the same… Its kinda hard to explain but i assume you are getting my point.. Just be yourself. Have confidence.. And think of everybody as one brain. They are no different from you.. Physical feature is only a disguise. =)

Alain answers:

The book “Heroes and Ghosts” was a wonderful story about two male characters falling in love. The plot was complex and interesting and full of angst, though culminating in a happy ending, thankfully. The only problem may be that the book contains graphic sexual scenes between the two main characters, so if you don’t approve of that, this book is definitely not one that I would recommend for you.

Alain answers:

Dawn by V. C. Andrews.
-about a girl’s coming of age, first love and the secrets that surround her parentage.

Alain answers:

I think Frank McCourt does it pretty well in his autobiography. He doesn’t work too hard to gain your sympathy at all, and he even allows himself to look like a butthole sometimes.

Another one is Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy. A woman torn from her family due to social pressure of the time, she indeed has a lot to be genuinely angsty about.

Alain answers:

Fefe Dobson isn’t Black American lol